I do that sometimes too, could be my uranus in 1st. =p

Tact, sweetheart, tact. ;)

No. It actually throws them off, cause they expect you to be rude. Kind of like when you walk down the streets of manhattan and no ones says "bless you" for sneezing, its all about that attitude. So if you act nice, it'll throw 'em off and make them realize that they could be rude to you.

Its a great tactic when someone is truly annoying you for being rude. Usually in a very calm and polite voice always does the trick, no matter how insane they get, just stay calm. Here are a few examples:

"Excuse me, but the volume/language you are using is disrupting everyone in the immediate area. I was wondering if you could refrain from being this expressive in your communicative efforts to whomever your trying to have a conversation with. Thank you and have a nice day..."

"Hello. I was noticing you looking over here and was wondering if anything interest you or if you felt offended by me physically being in the same location as you are? If so I'd like to know what it is that seems to be grabbing your attention so frequently. But also staring that much or that hard is considered inappropriate and I would love it if you could refrain from doing that if you could. Thank you and have a nice day..."

*tap tap on the shoulder*
"Yes, hello. I've noticed that you just cut me in line and was wondering why? I'm sorry for asking, but to be honest its not fair to me nor is it fair to the other people waiting patiently in line. I was wondering if you could be so kindly and make your way to the end. If not then you have no respect for anyone, which shows how selfish you are for doing such an unkind act as cutting a line. If you wish to redeem yourself, then by all means remove yourself from this spot and walk to the end of the line."



To be frank and mean instead of polite, then saying something like this can work:

"Um, yeah hi. Your being completely rude and inappropriate in public. I've been asked to come over and make you aware of your actions that seem to have a big effect in a negative way, not only to the these people, but their children as well. Can you PLEASE refrain from being such a loud and annoying person, which has given me a headache literally. Your driving everyone mad and if you don't stop I'll have force you to be quiet by asking someone to quietly remove you from the area. Don't push me or it'll happen. Thank you and have a nice day and please use your indoor voice!"

If I respond to rude people with kindness, wouldn't they think they can keep being rude?
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in my experience, most people act rudely in order to create a negative environment that further justifies their own nasty mindset ~ so, responding with rudeness confirms that for them & actually reinforces their unpleasant perspective ~ they leave feeling 'justified' in their own rudeness, not remorseful at all

responding in a way that they don't expect (humor works wonders too!) can ~ sometimes ~ interrupt their negative downspiral just long enough to allow them think twice & possibly make a different choice ~ I'm not saying that it works everytime ~ but, I find that it is the best chance I have of interfering with someone else's bad mood that threatens to 'bring me down' just by existing in our shared environment

I catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

sometimes, I pretend that I don't hear/understand what the rude person is saying & I have them repeat it, over & over ~ all the while I'm giving confused looks ~ by the time the other person has repeatedly attempted to insult me, but can't make it stick, they usually give up with just the slightest inkling that the whole interaction didn't go down the way they had planned & I walk away, no worse for the wear

love all-ways,
mem

kill them with kindness oh yes thats what I do all the time.

Actually, Marvin buddy...its experience and I have a great memories of actually doing all these things to some of the girls in my past, and metaphorically to those who..."want it." Now I am really LMFAO!!!

its sad and funny all at the same time that you dont realize how foolish you are and pathetic and insecure you come off to others. I was told to let this "feud" go and after this i believe I will. I dont believe anything you say makes sense except in your own little head, and judging by the way you speak, the things you type, and the ignorance you portray I can tell you are a lame/idiot/imbecile/wutever word you perfer . You'd know this if you read your sad blogs or your "deep" poems you pray people understand, when we don't...cuz if we did we'd acknowledge it. But you did get one thing right I am gay. I may be gay, but it takes a real faggot to attack someone over the internet, but I'd be willing to bet my life c69 if I could get you in person I'd whoop your faggot ass. Although I let you get to me enough that I felt the need to reply, it will be the last!
Marvin out!