Have positive outlets to remove this negative energy inside you. The memories will still be there, but you attain a higher level - sort of like rising from the scorpion to become the eagle or even phoenix. When you are at the higher level, you naturally will deal with such things in better ways.

How do you deal with the lust?

Well, you either lock the fucker in a head lock, cut the throat ear to ear and pull back on the chin from behind.......or

you remember what goes around comes around.....and you can help it come around a bit quicker by doing the above

I can't give any good advice here,or I'd just be another hypocrit. I'm unable to get past getting even,at this point

when I'm hurt & disappointed by someone ~ I want to do something about it ~ but I have been around the block enough times to know that my results are much better for me when I do something to shift my perceptions about/attitudes toward/relationship with that someone, rather than try to hurt that person back (believe me, I've hurt plenty of people ~ but when I'm acting as an agent of karma ~ I'm not 'trying' to do it ~ it just happens)

the most effective person to manipulate to achieve your goals is yourself ~ if you are not flexible enough to change yourself than I'd say that you suck at manipulating other people, too

love all-ways,
mem

Patience, concentration, calculation and execution. This also applies to karma indeed.

When I'm hurt by someone I will be very angry inside but usually won't let the other person know that. I will be completely cold and cut them off for a while. I do usually forgive people though, but only if the issue has happened once. If it happens more than once I will cease all contact with that person. I haven't had any contact with my sister for two years for this reason. I have trouble letting go of hurt and anger, sometimes I will remember something from years ago and feel the hurt all over again as if it's just happened. Then the person in question will wonder why I'm being cold with them.

Usually when someone hurts me, they rarely know, at first. It takes a lot to push my buttons and make me blow up. The closer I am to someone, the quicker I'll let the lava flow from the volcano of my anger. My parents its very easy for me to express my anger. There are two friends who I have no trouble with telling them straight off the bat if they annoy me or anger me. I find it refreshing to release such a feeling so easily with people like them.

I find it very hard to take revenge when I think that someone has betrayed me. One of the gifts/curses of the scorpio moon is that I understand the psychological motivations of why people do things.....so I can always put myself in someone else's shoes. Makes it very hard to truely hate someone enough....

but then again..maybe that is my pisces influences..........

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Adriana.

Q:
When youre hurt and dissapointed by someone, what do you do?

A:

I use what I was taught in the anonymous twelve step programs.

Implicit example:

Chapter Five of the "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous
(All of the anonymous twelve step programs are patterned after it,
including "LOve and Sex Addicts)

How It Works .... Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory.
This was Step Four.
wap.aabigbook.com/howitworks.php

Excerpt from the above chapter:>

Fear:

This short word somehow touches about every aspect of our lives. It was
an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through
with it. It set in motion trains of circumstances which brought us misfortune
we felt we didn't deserve. But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling?
Sometimes we think fear ought to be classed with stealing. It seems to
cause more trouble.

We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We put them on paper, even though we
had no resentment in connection with them. We asked ourselves why we had
them. Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us? Self-reliance was good as far
as it went, but it didn't go far enough. Some of us once had great self-confidence,
but it didn't fully solve the fear problem, or any other. When it made us cocky, it
was worse.

I shut off, and the more I'm pressed for info the more tight-lipped I get, unless my Piscean sun sign kicks in and I just regurgitate my feelings in writing and send it to the person (ugh). Inside I think of ways to get back at them, but I never express it. I typically NEVER get over disappointment until I'm out of that person's sight for a long time or for good.

I have a bad temper to begin with ( Uranus square mars, pluto conjunct moon) so the first thing I do is "explode". Then the revengeful thoughts start setting in, and then more drama, etc.

Most of my drama comes from people trying to control me - that's when I get very angry. And a close second is relationship issues.

I am working on thinking through my temper as to what makes me angry, and it's been going well, but it can be hard, as rage can be an addictive emotion.

I remember my first 'real' job as a journalist when I was 21, and my co-workers tried all they could to make my life hell because I didn't fit in. After a couple of months I no longer could sleep from sheer misery, drank a bottle of Pernod every night until I lost consciousness - Pernod is a 40 % alcohol drink based on anis seeds - and finally the docter ordered I should resign. I left all hurt & angry. And there was no way I could "just get over it". The years passed by and I had severe sleeping problems again. This time my doctor prescribed Rohypnol. The drug makes you loose consciousness on the spot. And then all of a sudden I got this brilliant revenge plan for my former co-workers at the newspaper. I was going to bake them a delicious cake and put rohypnol in the cream. They would all have a piece of cake during the daily morning meeting, and within 10 minutes they would all loose consciousness. They would remain in that state for at least 8 hours, and after that feel very groggy. So it would be virtually impossible to make a newspaper for that day.

Eventually I didn't. I suddenly came to realize maybe some of those reporters would leave the meeting in a hurry and step into their cars... and loose consciousness while in full traffic, and maybe cause deadly accidents. I did not want to go THAT far. Also, I had no idea what dose I had to use for the cake - maybe my dose would be lethal...
But at least that was my revenge plan.
BTW: I don't have a scorpio moon, but I do have a tight moon-pluto aspect.