Turn Ons / Turn Offs

topic posted Thu, April 2, 2009 - 8:34 AM by  CanScorpiTarius
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What are 3 turn on / turn offs in a women or man, whether it be friends or someone you are attracted to? As a Scorpio Moon we read things differently when encountering people, eyes, body language, tone when speaking, etc, etc.

Turn offs:

Superficial, arrogance and fakeness

Turn On:

Confidence, sense of humor and beauty, inside or out. (Preferably both)
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CanScorpiTarius
New York City
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  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Thu, April 2, 2009 - 3:17 PM
    I know I went wayy over the limit. But I've been in so many relationships, at this point, I know what I want! (My
    Sun in 7th house)

    Turn -on in a male:

    Intelligence, sense of humor, aesthetically pleasing, has a great smile, active, responsible, has a good friends, can makeout/ fuck, not afraid of the dark side, mentally and EMOTIONALLY strong (so I don't have to be all the time... I'm tired of always being the "strong one" in all my relationships, sometimes I'd like a shoulder to lean on!), isn't afraid to get up and look like an idiot (pending of ocurse)

    Turn offs:

    Arrogance, superficiality, INSECURE, lacking passion for life, Narrow minded, negative thinker, racist, sexist, doesn't have good hygeine, dependence on drugs/ alcohol, violent (but still a little to keep it interesting), can't dress, not willing to try new things, thinks the world is against him, can't kiss,
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Thu, April 2, 2009 - 3:30 PM
    Turn Ons:

    Profound, authentic, unconventional

    Tur Offs:

    Fake, superficial, stubborn and self-centered
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      Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Thu, April 2, 2009 - 5:02 PM
      Turn Ons:

      An incredible "natural" scent.

      Understands what I am saying without
      me having to say a word.

      A wicked sense of humor.


      Turn Offs:

      Guys who wear baseball caps and
      don't take them off in bars/restaurant's.

      Guys who treat people in service oriented
      industries like shit.

      Guys who view anything other than "vanilla"
      as too kinky.

      "violent (but still a little to keep it interesting)"
      ********
      Nicely put!
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Fri, April 3, 2009 - 8:13 PM
    To be realistic, 3 really is not enough, especially with the experiences I have had lol ...

    I also know what I want but more importantly, I know what I don't want ... I have grown a lot since my younger years and I can honestly say not only have I gotten stronger but I have gotten wiser and I have more to learn because at the end of the day, you can always learn more and grow more. Even if I am 90 years old, there is more for me to learned and room for growth, with that being said....


    I am emotional and sensitive, this is true but NOT soft, there is a BIG difference ... I surround myself with positivity, do not need negative energy around me, fuck that ...(sorry but I am honest and blunt)

    I dislike some of the females I come across with all this drama ... I know the difference from a girl and a woman, I would love a Queen Earth in my life but timing has always been an issue ... Materialism is a big turn off, but I LOVE a woman that can make me laugh and have the intelligence to talk about anything and everything ... I am strong spiritually, emotionally, psychologically ... Another big turn on is when a women is sophisticated yet sexy at the same time, mmmmmmmmmmmmmm I love that ... I cannot stand a lazy fuck, I know how to please, I take satisfaction in pleasing but if I am not pleased, well that is a fucking turn off and I just might cum quick and not give a flying fuck LOL ... Self centered women are a joke, and I am sympathetic but if I do not get that in return then I wont even say bye ... I give good massages of the body, hair, head, legs, thighs, Everything but if I do not get the same effort then .... I cannot stand a women not secure with herself big turn off, independent but not too independent where she thinks she can take the world on and at the end of the day she can't is a joke ... I can go on and on but you get the picture ...
    • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Fri, April 3, 2009 - 8:23 PM
      By the way, I would kiss the foot of a true Queen while I kneel on one knee ... and one more thing, I am NOT scared of the unknown or the dark ... I casually walk in LOL but not as a fool or arrogant but with confidence in myself ...
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Sat, April 4, 2009 - 9:15 AM
    Turn Offs:
    - Kiss ass types
    - Too honest to the point of hurt
    - Not being true to one's self

    Turn Ons:
    - Manners
    - Good sense of humor
    - Intelligence, for those good conversations

    I can say that as a scorpio moon, more so a female one, we can already pick up on the vibes, read the body language, and can see the eyes for what they really are saying when a guy wants to go to bed with us lol, its that "look" and i think all you ladies know which one I'm talking about lol
    • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Tue, April 7, 2009 - 12:48 PM
      L+P, I don't know about the "eye" comment.... I have known some real muther fuc**ing jerks with the most beautiful, innocent green eyes in the WHOLE world.. heh. Why are the evil ones always so attractive? Oh but how I want to meet an individual with the whole package...

      I forgot to mention a turn on: SOME ONE WHO WILL LISTEN TO ME AND TAKE WHAT I HAVE TO SAY SERIOUSLY. I'm chock full of amazing advice and intelligence! Too bad most chauvinist self-centered types can't reason on a non-self serving basis.
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Sun, April 5, 2009 - 11:37 AM
    Turn Ons:

    - Genuine Smile
    - Good Manners (Especially cursing; I honestly hate it)
    - Self-confident

    Turn-Offs:

    - Superficiality
    - Bad Manners
    - Lacking direction in life
    • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Mon, April 6, 2009 - 2:43 AM
      turn ons:

      intelligence
      compassion
      flexibility

      turn offs:

      dependence
      whining
      boring conversation
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        Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

        Mon, April 6, 2009 - 2:45 AM
        flexibility
        *****
        hee hee!
        Can't make me gag if I have
        no gag reflex!
        • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

          Mon, April 6, 2009 - 2:59 AM
          thats not the particular form of flexability i was meaning, but i know you are just trying to warm my cold, cold heart.

          i meant something like having enouph muscle tone to get fucked off the edge of the couch, upside down, while hanging onto an adjacent mountain bikes handlebars. (for example). and not get muscle cramps. i was bad last night, can you tell? i never knew a bike would have other helpful things it does.
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Mon, May 11, 2009 - 9:58 PM
    Turn ons :
    intensity, depth, sense of humour, kindness, compassion, loyalty, physical & emotional strength, them being able to show their vulnerablity, privacy, secrets, honesty, intelligence, good in bed & making out, deep emotion, dimples

    Turn offs:
    superficiality, cruelty, fakeness, arrogance, self centeredness, stupidity, bigotry, close mindedness, dispassionate, unfeeling, bad in bed & at kissing, listless, lazy, bad hygiene, self pitying, emotionally weak, loud, can't shut up, cant keep secrets, fickleness, flaky

    i know that was more than 3 but 3 just couldn't cover it
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Wed, September 9, 2009 - 2:48 PM
    Turn Offs:
    --arrogance (at least extroverted, unashamed arrogance - i can be okay with arrogance if the person is simultaneously self-critical and embarrassed at their pride. but no cocky attitudes. that grosses me out.)
    --closed-mindedness (i am interested in discussing opinions and i have a few that i'm closed-minded about, but people who only preach their views and won't even entertain other perspectives are endlessly frustrating for me.)
    --lack of self-awareness (impossible to have deep relationships with these people, because they don't understand their own triggers.)

    Turn Ons:
    --maturity combined with goofiness (the best of both worlds.)
    --creativity (appealing and a common interest.)
    --curiosity (about the world, other people, themselves... anything/everything. good for conversation and inspiration.)
    • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Wed, September 9, 2009 - 3:06 PM
      turn ons: genuine kindness
      beautiful face
      good girl outside/bad girl inside
      innocence in some........darkness in others (depends on the girl)

      Turn offs: Argumentative
      overly analytical
      insecure
      judgemental
      *although these are turn offs.... I have had relationships with women who possess these traits but are nice people deep down and have shown sweetness. Society can produce some oddballs. I can usually sense what triggers these bad traits in them, too. But often times, its hard for me to get along with.
    • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

      Wed, September 9, 2009 - 3:23 PM
      oh man, now i really wanna cheat and add one more to each category.

      Additional Turn Off:
      --judgmental

      Additional Turn On:
      --compassionate
      • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

        Thu, September 10, 2009 - 1:20 AM
        Turn ons:

        A Woman who can make me feel smart, pretty and wanted.
        A woman who laughs at my jokes, and makes me laugh back.
        A Woman who can handle my 30 ton train of attention.
        A Woman who who is not afraid to open up.
        A Woman who make you feel you know her for 30 years the first minute you meet them.
        A Woman who will go trough fire and flames for you and expect the same back unconditionally.
        A Woman who believes in me.
        A woman who wants to have sex with me instead of just giving me sex.
        A Woman who see's my explosive black and white mindset as dynamic and not as destructive.
        A Woman who is not ignorant but not smart enough to have that conversation "wall" up, i don't want to explain everything in 30 ways, i want you to feel what i'm saying.
        A Woman who doesn't want me make out with a guy.
        A Woman who doesn't get me into fights when we go out.
        A Woman with good taste in Multi media, but not so good that she doesn't want experiment with watching films or hearing music that isn't rated a 5/5 each time.
        A woman that text, or calls you to give you some kind words but doesn't get angry if you don't call them back in 5 minutes because they know they are going to get something good back that's worth the wait.
        A woman who isn't afraid to demand something of you and isn't afraid to get something demanded back.
        A woman who can solve her own problems, but loves it when i help her.
        A woman who doesn't smoke or do drugs (wich is hard here in Holland)

        And the most important of all:

        A woman who let's me make a mistake(not cheating) once in a while without holding it against me in a later discussion.

        Turns offs:

        Friendzone's
        Women with harems
        Women who want older guys just because they are more mature (honey, most grow up or they don't, age is not a factor, they just know how to make you believe that they are in a better way than younger guys)
        Women who have mustaches, i don't mind if you don't want to shave your body every day (really i can understand me bieng a man and all lol) but a mustache can really fuck with me head.
        bad hygiene
        women who like a guy more because they have a car.
        Women who have dated guys i hate.
        Women who talk about exes (c what i did thar?)
        Women who hate men because they made the mistake of dating a asshole. I'm not going to fix that anymore, did that to many times with out getting something in return.
        Women who like badboys
        Women who almost wear bikini's to work or school
        Women who expect the world to be handed them just because they have a vagina.
        Women who makes excuses for a guy just because he is handsome.
        Women who let them self be used just because they have a pretty picture of a guy in their head.
        Women who fight you every step of the way about everything
        Women who can't handle a sweet guy.
        Women who expect you to be a asshole but hold it against you when you are one.
        Women who think i can't see right trough them and go in panic mode when i do ( i fucking hate that)
        Women who don't make it clear if they are in a relationship or not.
        Women who don't listin when i tell them one of their guy friends is just being friends with you because they wanna fuck you and then come crying to me when they made a move.
        Women who spew out stupid comments like a machine gun.

        I have enough for one sitting lol, i might find a few more on a later note.



  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Tue, November 3, 2009 - 6:52 PM
    Biggest turn ons:

    Humor, intelligence, kindness, generosity, curiosity

    Biggest turn offs:

    Bad manners, arrogance, mean spirited, lazy, cocky, petty, cheap
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Wed, November 4, 2009 - 7:32 PM
    TURN-ONS :

    - Someone who can keep a conversation going.

    I love to converse and its positively invigorating when
    someone can keep a conversation that keeps my interest.

    Ackward silences are quite disappointing.

    - Someone who can make me laugh.

    The fastest way to my heart is laughter. I am a fan
    of EVERY kind of humor in existence.

    - Someone who is not afraid to be themselves.

    'Nuff said. :D

    TURN OFFS :

    - Mind games. Someone who tries to make the relationship a constant power struggle.
    Partners who would with-hold affection and other things out of spite.


    - Constant Flattery. I'm a fan of that song 'More than words' by westlife.

    "Saying I love you
    Is not the words I want to hear from you
    It's not that I want you
    Not to say, but if you only knew
    How easy it would be to show me how you feel
    More than words is all you have to do to make it real
    Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
    Cos I'd already know "

    Heh. Heh.

    - Being superficial. Do people not realize how obvious they are when acting fake?
  • Re: Turn Ons / Turn Offs

    Wed, November 4, 2009 - 8:07 PM
    Turn ons:
    Men who are genuine, artistic, and deep (I'd say more but you want three)

    Turn offs:

    Egotism in the sense that the person can't see or perceive anyone or anything else. That's the top worst quality in anyone.
    Number two is lack of confidence in the sense that they pretend to be manly or unaffected etc but it's really obvious that they are insecure about who they are. NOT fortunate. Number three gets to be a man who has no interest in what goes beyond what is before him in the everyday mundane life.

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