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How do you feel about it? For me, when i was younger, one night stands were a fun way to spend a night. Now i find casual sex (with no emotions involved) boring and empty, and im just not into it anymore.How about you?
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Re: Sex without emotions
Sat, October 17, 2009 - 1:03 AMI always found it empty, but i'm a guy, so i can expect the girl to feel emotion half of the time, so don't really think about it that much.
Once i did not feel that she had any emotion with the lovemaking we had, i could not even get it up after that with her. -
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Sat, October 17, 2009 - 6:00 PMI agree with you Roxie, I find it empty too. Sometimes, if the physical attraction is strong enough and there's just pure lust in the picture it can be pretty great. But those experiences don't exactly grow on trees... I gotta feel something for the man, or else I'd rather spend my time on other things -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Sun, October 18, 2009 - 1:35 AMMona, you're back! I thought you were gone :(
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, October 19, 2009 - 10:49 AMI find the process of seduction so interesting that I'm certainly not opposed to casual sex. I like that initial connection with a stranger; it's a challenge and very exciting. But I think the actual sex tends to be much better when with someone you have feelings for, especially if you know each other how each other work, etc.
Also, I could still be interested in casual sex and seduction partly because I'm a late bloomer and haven't spent a lot of time doing that, so far in my life. But I think what I listed above and also that I'm very interested in people, in general, and seeing a little bit of how everyone works. Even that little casual-yet-intimate connection gives you a peek at what that person is like and it's terribly intriguing. -
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Mon, October 19, 2009 - 1:12 PMSex is an intensely intimate thing for me. If there were no feelings before the union, there certainly are afterwards even if it was only a casual thing. This is always what happens between me and any fuck buddy flings I have had, they have always ended up becoming complicated because emotions have developed. All of a sudden, your friend with benefits starts coming around often and regularly and BAM! Now you're in a relationship. I have had some friends become girlfriends out of such unions, and we've become exclusive. Sometimes they develop into something very nice. Sometimes, its a dissaster. I have always been a go with the flow kind of guy. Some people cannot handle it, though. Hearts have broken including my own.
I know myself better now and am aware of what I project when I am in make out mode. No matter how much I try, I cannot have sex without my emotions being involved. I make love on THAT level. I cannot enjoy it any other way. But, I am a man, so I screw ladies that I shouldn't be screwing and deal with the reprocussions, later. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, October 19, 2009 - 2:31 PMSean -
I wonder if sex is so emotionally-affecting, for you, partly because of your Moon/Mars conjunction (took a peek at your chart). Seems like that could tie those two parts of you together pretty tightly. -
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Tue, October 20, 2009 - 1:22 PMPerhaps it is! I did not know that the connection between the two could cause it. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 22, 2009 - 9:12 AMI'm just speculating, but I would think it could! It seems like it would function in that, when your sexual/aggressive functions are activated so are, simultaneously, your instinctive, emotional needs. And vice versa. I could see how it might be difficult to have casual sex without forming emotional attachment if the two areas are so linked. -
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Thu, October 22, 2009 - 3:31 PMThats true, Rothilda. I do put everything I have into everything I do most of the time.
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Re: Sex without emotions
Wed, October 21, 2009 - 10:45 PMI enjoy casual sex because it invokes sensations and a state of mind that I feel only in that context. It's pleasing to think about from many different perspectives and very entertaining. But whenever anything gets boring, I lose my attention and focus on something ... over ... there! I've surprised myself over the years by occassionally returning to certain behaviors and choices that I thought had been completely drained of all enlivenment, only to discover something would invariably draw me back in for a spell. Or an enchantment. It's amazing what our jaded eye hides from ourselves. -
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Thu, October 22, 2009 - 2:57 PMI tend to enjoy the connections, the above posts seem to have
a bit of me in all of them,,I like seductions, and have had casual
sex though there was a spark that drew us together, tho my favorite
is sex and a spiritual ' floating ' place that it takes me to,,,regardless
what one person feels, for the other it may be something else,,
,where I feel one thing , my partner at the time may have different
feelings and thoughts, and those are hers ,,,tho even with casual affections
I enjoy the depths that were explored,,, -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 22, 2009 - 3:29 PMhas anyone ever told you that you look like a white Todd Bridges? -
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Fri, October 23, 2009 - 12:06 PMhas anyone ever told you that you
look like the popes scrotum ? -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, October 26, 2009 - 9:36 AMhmmmm... actually no.......................fu7nny that you know what the pope's scrotum looks like. Former alter boy? -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, October 26, 2009 - 9:37 AMwhatchoo' talkin' bout, Willis!?!?
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 22, 2009 - 5:09 PMFor most of my younger years (17- 22?) I've done the whole "I gotta have an emotional bond" before I have sex thing.
But recently, I decided to give the random sex thing a chance. This change of heart could be because I just got tired of being in CRAPPY CRAPPY relationships. And I also got tired of not having sex. I just got so burnt out from having such intense emotions alllll the time. Why does it always have to be so godayum serious!?! I just want to have some fun. Hell - and I did.
Anyways, it was awesome. This may sound fucked up, but it was such a release for me.
I'm in a commited relationship now, so that lifestyle for me is out of commision. -
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Fri, October 23, 2009 - 9:39 AMDid the crappy-crappy relationships derive from preferring the emotional over the purely sexual (or at lest expecting them to go hand in hand)? -
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Fri, October 23, 2009 - 10:57 AMI think I expected both love and sex to go hand-in-hand. What I wasn't aware of, was that they don't always do, or have to.
My crappy relationships were proabably because I was inexperienced in dating, and seem to choose the wrong partners.
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, October 26, 2009 - 6:21 PMNever had sex without emotion . . missed a few sure things.
Have always had sex with a PERSON, not just a warm body who was just handy and willing.
For me. sexual attraction includes character, intelligence, wit, and other things you don't find in casual sex.
Only once slept with a person on the same night I met them - a blind date, at that !
Met her for lunch on Friday; date ended Sunday afternoon.
But, then - she also has a Scorpio Moon.
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Re: Sex without emotions
Wed, October 28, 2009 - 6:50 AMI prefer sex with emotions but sometimes I just wanna get my nut off. Get some of that glazed icing YUMMY! LOL -
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Wed, October 28, 2009 - 9:09 PM"Get some of that glazed icing YUMMY! "
Just can't resist . . . .
IF, the morning after, your face doesn't feel like a glazed doughnut. . . .
You didn't do it right. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 29, 2009 - 12:58 PMI think the most interesting question to pose to you Scorpio mooners would be........ how do you feel about a prospective partner enjoying casual ssex? Would you be angered by the thought that your lover may have enjoyed sex in a more playful free way before...and would you hate it if you slept with someone and you had feelings for them but realised they were just using you for some steamy erotic pleasure..for a release? In my experience it's one fucking rule for you and one for us!
Yess i'm a pisces moon and I love the scorpio energy butt I'm feeling rebellious........
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Thu, October 29, 2009 - 3:45 PMWhen I was younger, I fell inlove with this my friend who didnt want to be my girlfriend but she had sex with me alot. It confused me and broke my heart. She started to see this older cat who was pretty well off and took her to nice places to eat and expensive concerts. She told me how she she spent a weekend with him in Sacramento to see some Steely Dan concert and she wants to be with him. We were both 25 at the time. Steely Dan?!?!?!? what the fuc? After he screwed her and dumped her, she came back around again being my friend and shit. I was heartbroken, but I was happy to be fucking again even though the feelings of love and tenderness werent there anymore.. I have this stupid hero syndrome. Thats why I stupidly let her hang out with me again. But deep deep down inside, I really hated her guts for introducing me to my first taste of fish hooks tearing my heart apart. That was an expensive lesson. The gods were not merciful.
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 29, 2009 - 6:11 PMariel -
Ah, when there's an difference involved - between two people - when it comes to feelings, that's a whole other story. I would certainly feel upset if someone slept with me and it only was casual fun for them if I had feelings for them and was under the impression that were more seriously into me, too. I've never had that scenario come up exactly, but I've definitely felt misled before, romantically and I got pretty sad about it (some of that, looking back, was my own wishful thinking/projection, though, and not the fault of the other parties). And, likewise, I would not feel right sleeping with someone I was only dug in a casual way if I was aware that they had deeper feelings for me. That sort of imbalance always leads to hard feelings. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Thu, October 29, 2009 - 6:12 PMUh... rather, "someone I only dug in a casual way." That "was" does not belong!
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Re: Sex without emotions
Fri, October 30, 2009 - 2:52 AMAriel,
what other energy is involved in the make-up of your personality? how did you 'realize' they were just using you for pleasure, as you say? -
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Sat, October 31, 2009 - 6:46 PMhmmm i never said those words..you put them into my mouth......lets just say i've felt the wrath and erotic possesiveness of a scorpio moon with regards to sex..yet they are far from innocent..being a pisces moon my emotional instincts lean towards me being sensitive , cumpassionate, loving non judgemental understanding and forgiving....love and devotion are what i feel for this person and I don't make them feel guilty for having been with others in the past when we werent together... butt I feel like I am still being punished ..for times in the past when i may been naughty..even before i met this person, they admitted that they wish i was a virgin in the sense that i had only ever been with them and have called me a whore and a slut many times in arguments.. he says he feels scared by the power i have over him sexually and that no one turns him on like i do so maybe tis all about control idk......yet he has been much more promiscuous than me in the past!....I really dont want this to be an issue between us but it is beginning to make me want to swim away into the arms of someone warm who understands.....dont get me wrong my scorpio mars means that I am sso passionate...sexually and erotically intensse and I feel possessive also of him yet i also accept this person and love their soul so deeply and understand that we are all human....how can i get through to him....please give me some insight scorpio mooners...i hate myself right now:(xxxxxx -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Sun, November 1, 2009 - 9:47 AMDid you have fun in your past?
Be honest. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, November 2, 2009 - 6:50 AMyesss lots of fun......why do you ask? -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, November 2, 2009 - 10:29 AMIf you had fun, then stop hating your self. Life is about feeling good and having fun, you don't have to hate yourself for that.
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Mon, November 2, 2009 - 7:40 AMIf he has moved on from previous mistakes then great but if he still holds that bitterness to the slight then you either help each other out with the problem or it is going to snow ball. That is what I think based off what you are telling me...xoxo Ariel
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Re: Sex without emotions
Sun, November 1, 2009 - 5:38 PMI agree it is very limited, of little interest. -
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Re: Sex without emotions
Mon, November 2, 2009 - 6:49 AMDid i touch a raw nerve?....what exactly are you referring to fiona?
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